We are surrounded by people who are “the best.” We have that one friend who is the smartest person in class, who is the best in academics. We have that one friend who excels in sports, who carries the title MVP in almost every league. We have that one friend who is the prettiest and, naturally, the most popular. She has that charm that draws others to her. We meet a multitude of people who are exceptional at something while we are sitting ducks, waiting for our moment to come.
This article is for those who feel useless, inadequate, and set aside. This is for the seconds, thirds, fourths, and lasts among us. This is for those under “the rest”, “the others”, or “and company.” This is for those who are considered mediocre because they cannot help it, because their best is mediocre compared to the world’s. This is for those who have not found themselves.
I know you are tired of feeling inferior. Your self-esteem sinks lower than the oceans. I know you are sick of feeling jealous of the successful people around you. You keep asking yourself, “Why can’t I be like that?” You attempt to find where you belong but come up as merely decent. You are only half as good at the things you love doing, so you end up hating these things. Your most said sentence would probably be “I’m so done.”
But you are not done. You cannot be done. You cannot believe that this is it. Your next failure may very well be your last failure before you reach success. Your big break could come tomorrow, and you would miss it if you give up now. You might finally be able to know what you were made for if you just jump into opportunities instead of cowering behind your fear of messing up.
You need to keep pushing. Find something you love doing, and do it. It does not matter if you are not the best at it, as long as you love it. Do something that does not feel like labor to you. Choose to pursue something that you can see yourself doing for the next 50 years of your life. Better yet, pursue something you cannot see yourself not doing.
Gain that passion because that will lead to determination. Adapt the determination that sticks even when you put yourself out there for failure. Chase a dream that despite all the setbacks, you will relentlessly chase it because that is how much you love it. Remember that every setback is only a step back to see the bigger picture.
You also need to stop comparing yourself to others. Your journey is different from theirs. Your purpose is different from theirs. You are going to see others succeed countless times before you succeed yourself, and there is nothing wrong with that. Celebrate their success, and continue working on yours. There is nothing shameful in taking longer than others in discovering yourself or in becoming successful. Life is not a competition in the first place; society just makes it out as such.
Ultimately, God has a plan specifically tailored for you. That is a promise you can hold on to no matter what situation you are in right now because if there is one thing you can be certain of, it is that God is constantly faithful. This assurance will give you the confidence to take on adversities head on, for it is a different kind of confidence—one that is from who God is and not from who you are.
Cling on to Him, and one day you will find yourself doing something and whispering to yourself, “I was born for this.”
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