In a digital world of constant comparison, pretense, and low self-esteem, an important message from the self-love campaign looks something like this: The opinion of others about you does not matter in any way. You should never allow what they say to be your truth.
People’s collective response to you, however, could possibly hint at how they feel about you, what you need to know about yourself, and how your actions affect other people. Self-awareness is a pain in the butt sometimes, but having little to no trace of it is plain toxic.
Here are the telltale signs that you are a toxic person.
You talk about them behind their backs
You can deny it all you want, but you know too well that you indulge in talking about a person behind their back. Here’s the not-so-pretty truth: You love backstabbing people as much as you hate (or more accurately, fear) confronting them. Challenge yourself to talk to them with whatever issue you have against the person. Nothing will be resolved in hiding behind gossip.
You blame everyone else for your problems
You never admit that you’re wrong, because you simply think that you’re not and that you can’t possibly be. This is why you blame everyone else for your behavior. The thing is, what others do is not always the fault for your misfortune. You always have a choice on how to react to a situation. Try doing it and you’ll see the difference.
Your life is constantly full of drama
While some moments in our lives can be too intense to handle, you always seem to thrive when things go insanely wrong. It’s a never-ending cycle for you. You become the annoying drama queen that tires out everyone around you. Instead of relishing in the hopelessness of the situation, try finding actual solutions for your problem.
You tend to focus on the negative
There’s nothing wrong with feeling sad or frustrated. We get it. Life’s tough and adulting is worse, but the reality is life still goes on and so should you. Instead of being a pessimistic downer, look at what you can do with what you have and your current situation. There’s no other way but up, anyway, if you feel like you’re rock bottom
After all, it’s darkest right before the sun.
You make people feel bad around you
“People will forget what you said. People will forget what you did. But people will never forget how you made them feel,” Maya Angelou once said. And that’s about damn right. You constantly subject people to your manipulative, guessing games because you readily give people the cold shoulder. Communicate, instead. It’s easier than carrying a heavy load of pent-up anger.
Whether you have a friend who constantly complains or a workmate who’s a pessimistic downer, one thing’s for sure: they’re not