Have you ever had a special someone who suddenly disappeared in your life without a word? You might’ve been ghosted, bes. In case you didn’t know, ghosting is the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone abruptly and withdrawing from all communication. And it’s not just about romantic relationships, it could be friendships at school and work, too.
To quote Piolo Pascual in Starting Over Again, “I deserve an explanation. I deserve an acceptable reason.” We all do, but sometimes, you just need to handle it like the strong person that you are. Here’s how to respond to ghosting with sass and class.
Make sure you’ve been ghosted
Before crying in pain and anger ala-Blank Space Taylor Swift, make sure that the person actually ghosted you. The person might just be swamped with deadlines or some life-changing event that is preventing him/her from reaching out to you. Don’t hesitate to reach out to them. Ask if something’s up and how you can possibly help. That’s an effective way to get them to reply, too, which is an easy way to confirm if you’ve been ghosted or not.
Stop contacting the person
Once you’ve confirmed that you were ghosted, you have the option of calling them out. The bitter truth is this, though: If the person truly cared for you in the first place, you won’t need to beg for their attention. So if you feel that pointing out what he/she did wrong is pointless, then forget about calling or texting. You don’t need to waste your minutes and data allocation for them.
Don’t even think twice. Just delete every message, every picture, and every trace of the person. They don’t deserve any space in your life or phone storage. We know it’s tempting to burn everything that special someone ever gave you, but have pity on the ozone layer. Instead, bring the items to a recycling facility or donate to those who might need it.
Stop the self-pity party
Always remember this: It’s not your fault. It was not you who left without a word. It was you who tried to reach out. It was you who chose to be the better person. The pity party, therefore, is not for you. Instead of sulking, invite your friends to a fun movie night out or binge-watch episodes of Brooklyn Nine-Nine.
Carry on with your awesome life
Imagine life before your special friend came. Think about all the time you enjoyed independence. Remember how happy you felt and how life was turning out just the way you wish it would. You’ll realize that it was better without him/her. Go out and have fun. Travel to places you’ve always wanted to visit. Embark on a fitness journey. Try something you’ve never done before, like living your life for yourself.
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