In Asia, Filipinos are the most expressive in terms of communicating with their partners. According to the 2017 Pru Life UK Relationship Index, 91% talk with each other for about an hour at least once a week. They are also most likely to show affection and make each other laugh frequently.
Interestingly, there are still a handful of Filipinos who want their partners to be even more expressive. When asked if they could change anything about their loved ones, 33% want them to be more communicative.
Technology and social media have also brought significant changes in the dynamics of relationships. Selfies can be one’s “I love you” or “good morning” messages. People love posting #RelationshipGoals photos on Facebook and Instagram. Couples even celebrate their anniversaries online, with matching heartwarming (and cheesy) photos and dedications.
While these innovations are designed to keep people in touch, findings show that they can also cause the opposite. 43% admit that they spend too much time on their phones, which negatively impact their relationships. 27% even feel that they compete with their partner’s gadgets for attention.
Social media may also spark arguments between couples. 22% of respondents say that they get upset with their partner’s posts. Some fighting couples worsen matters by resorting to passive-aggressive behavior. Instead of solving issues together, they rant or “subtweet” (posting on Twitter without mentioning the username) to vent their frustrations.
Granted, it’s easier to let off some steam on social media—the “likes” and “shares” on your post may even make the experience more gratifying. But nothing gets solved at the end of the day. If there are any issues in your relationship, approach your partner personally instead of taking it online. Disclosing everything—from personal feelings to financial matters—will make your relationship stronger and more fulfilling.
Remember that technology is just a means. It isn’t meant to replace personal communication. A sincere conversation or an “I love you” with a warm embrace will always win over the most elaborate post on social media. In the digital age, honesty and openness are still the real #RelationshipGoals.
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